12.25.2010

my best friend is engaged!

Talbert Middle School was the third middle school I found myself calling "my school". With my parents divorce I found myself changing schools 4 times in 3 years. Putting a kid through the horrors of changing schools was bad enough, changing middle schools multiple times, is basically child abuse. My first day at Talbert was like the rest. I was so anxious that I stayed near a bathroom incase vomiting was necessary and I didn't dare say a word to anyone increase I'd say something dumb. The second day of school Nancy and I met, and the rest is history. We were instantly friends, best friends. So much so that people thought we move to Huntington Beach together.  We were inseparable for the next two years, it was unusual if we weren't sleeping at one another house at least 3 nights a week. The nights we didn't wake up in the same house, we would talk on the phone in the morning before school and watch "Three's Company" together. Through the typical difficulties of our teen years, she made it doable, in fact amazing. I honestly couldn't imagine my life without her and I definitely wouldn't be the person I am today with out her, but it wasn't a cake walk to get here.

I moved to Oregon before my sophomore year of high school but nothing changed. I visited Orange County several times a year and cell phones allowed us to continue to know each others personal lives better then any one else. High school brought a whole knew level of insecurity and life lessons to be learned. Being 1,000 miles apart we managed to never lose the support and the love, through our first romantic relationships, the the introduction to drugs and alcohol, hating our parents and discovering our passions. I graduated and moved back to Huntington Beach and Nancy moved in with me. The awkward time of figuring out where to go next in life after high school. I decided on college, volunteering and travel, Nancy choose the path of family, church and a job. To say the least, this is when we started to conflict, our life paths didn't line up. Sadly enough, we struggled to stay as close as we were before. I judged her and she judged me. We both were on the paths that were meant for us, but both failed to understand that at our immature age.
Luckily we found our way back. 
I believe that this girl is so intertwined with who I am, that by denying her, is denying myself. Nancy and I are two very different people in our life's path, but not at all in what we value in ourselves and the people in our life. Over the past two years we have been able to mend our friendship. With communication, honesty, understanding and simply love, it's as though we didn't skip a beat. The fact of that we were able to see past our differences and continue to love each other through our pride, is something rare. Our friendships is something rare. She's my sister, she knows me better then anyone in the whole world. She's my rock, my strength and my best friend.


On the note, I am so proud, ecstatic and overjoyed to say..
MY BEST FRIEND IS ENGAGED!!!!! Ms. Nancy Tolman will now be Ms. Nancy Waldron. Mannnn we grew up! I love you Nancy Corraine.

1 comment: